Introduction - User Guide


Introduction to a Pattern

Let’s assume that you have chosen a pattern to explore. There is an introductory step sequence that helps you learn about the pattern and what triggers it. This will help you determine how strongly you have this pattern and whether you want to work on it.

The Description Page explains the pattern, how people typically feel and behave when it is activated, and its impact on their functioning and relationships. This page also includes the False Belief for the pattern. Each pattern has a False Belief, which is a brief summary of what someone believes when this pattern is activated. For example, the False Belief for the People-Pleasing Pattern is: “It is dangerous to assert myself. I must please others for them to like me and connect with me. My needs don’t count compared to other people’s.” 



The Story Page contains a link to a story of one person’s pattern. STJ users often identify with the person in the story. However, you might still have the pattern even if you don’t identify with that particular example of it. This story is continued later in Stage 3, when you learn how the protagonist resolved their pattern and developed the corresponding healthy capacity.

The Similar Patterns Page mentions several other patterns that are similar to the one you are exploring, in case you decide that you have one of these patterns more strongly. For example, the Conflict-Avoiding Pattern is similar to the People-Pleasing Pattern. You can choose to switch to exploring one of those other patterns or mark it for later exploration.

Triggers Page. A person can manifest a pattern to a greater or lesser degree, and it can be triggered all the time or only under certain circumstances. For example, a person might have their People-Pleasing Pattern activated when someone seems upset with them or when they are around judgmental people. The Triggers Page helps you explore when your pattern tends to be triggered, to give you a better idea of how strong and pervasive it is.

On the final page of this sequence, you decide if you want to work on the pattern. If so, you move on to Stage 1.

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