The Self is a central concept in IFS. We all have the core of us that is our true self. You might think of it as your spiritual center. This 'Self' is really who we are--when our extreme parts are not activated and obstructing us.
The Self is relaxed, open, and accepting of yourself and others. When you are in Self, you are grounded, centered, and non-reactive. You don’t get triggered by what people do. You remain calm and unruffled, even in difficult circumstances. The Self is so much larger and more spacious than our parts and is not frightened by events that would scare them. The Self has the strength and clarity to function well in the world and connect with other people.
When you are in Self, you come from a depth of compassion, enabling you to be loving and caring toward others as well as yourself and your parts.
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